I am just trying to keep afloat through a downswing.
However, I am just taking some time this weekend to babystep my way to getting some of this weight of stress off me. Little things that are just geting in my way as far as concentrating on my plans for the future.
Clean my house. Do my laundry. Get the clutter and the chaos out of my face.
It’s kind of hard to do when your daughter has a raging ear infection in both ears. And now the hubby is sick too. The big girl went to her best friend’s birthday slumber party so she’s not here, and its probably for the best. Her mom took 5 bottles of pills and tried to kill herself last Sunday. We only just found out about it yesterday (Friday). Princess is broken hearted and feeling pretty betrayed – both the fact that her mother did that and the fact that no one would tell her what was going on just because they didn’t want Hubby and Me to know. It really sucks.
At any rate, I’m hoping the Succubus stays in medical treatment somewhere and gets some help; although that has not worked for her the last 5 to 7 times she’s attempted this. One thing I must say is that she has never taken these many pills before, so I’m thinking for once she really meant to do it. As bad as I have felt, I can sympathize with her for feeling that hopeless. I’ve been there, and I’ve been there in the recent past. However, every time my mind started to stray down the path of “not wanting to live anymore” I would remember that there were indeed people who, although they could manage without me, I could not deny that my doing something like that would hurt them tremendously. When I would think about the ripples in the pond that my suicide would have made — made me realize I do have some value in this world and the fact that I have so much love for those people that I would never want to give them even a mild bit of pain with my passing, makes me realize life is worth living. A good time with them once every few months is worth all the rest of the mundane days, and the crappy days, and the despairing day every now and then.
So although they don’t know it – these people saved my life, and will continue to do so; because of them, I know my life is way more good than bad: Hubby, Princess, Lola, Kitty, Mom, Dad, Lois, Jim, Nate, Tiffy, Joey, Brian, June, Tina, TayTay, Stewart, my other nieces and nephews, even my SIL and BIL, my cousins, Nicole, Kath, even my online precious friends Y and Karen and others. I guess that’s a pretty good list of people. This shows me I’ve done something in my life that I can be proud of. I have the love and/or friendship of all these wonderful people. I have two beautiful daughters. I have a wonderful husband.
I often feel unworthy – that I have nothing real to contribute anymore. I often feel like people would be better off without me sucking the life out of them, or whatever. I feel guilt for needing more than I think I should. I get so tired of slogging through life every day, never having enough money, always worrying about where our family is going next, worrying about whether or not I’m ever going to find the peace within that I crave. How I will find the energy and the drive to do the things my heart and soul long to do. Sometimes I get so frustrated that the thought I wish I didn’t exist goes through my mind just because it’s such hard work to just live today. But the thought never goes far. And that can be frustrating too because sometimes I feel so bad, because I’m *pinned* here! But ultimately, that’s the best thing in my life.
Right now I am reconsidering the job I have taken. It is very stressful and I’m not sure if that is the best thing for me. I really need to decide if the extra $ from this position is worth the stress of it all. I’m not certain that it is. Hubby and I really need to talk this through and figure out what is best for us as a family and me as a mom. The ultimate solution would be to get the damned transfer to Tennessee anytime soon!!!
Well, I am going to get off here – I am making progress around the house so I better take advantage of that.
Songs to blog by tonight:
Lady – Styx
Barely Breathing – Duncan Sheik
Respect Yourself – Bruce Willis
Southern Cross – CSN&Y
Can’t Stop – After 7
Big Log – Robert Plant